Normally, the guys I have affairs with are men I meet through my job — I travel a lot — as an event coordinator, at parties, through friends of friends, or even old flames I've reconnected with on Facebook.

My husband and I had some huge fights during that time, and we both uttered the word "divorce." But deep down, neither of us wanted that. And once we settled into a comfortable rhythm of life with a baby, we both began relaxing into our old routines. I flirted with men when I went out with my single girlfriends.

And little by little, we reached the point we're at now, where both of us occasionally have affairs on the side but always come home to each other.

” This question comes up quite often for soon-to-be divorcees.

And, the simple answer should always be: “Not until your divorce is final.” But, life is rarely simple.

When I told him how I felt, he broke off his side situation.

Toward the last trimester of my pregnancy, Dave was amazing.

It's a Wednesday night, and my boyfriend and I are drinking wine and making out in the back booth of a dimly lit bar. I spend half a second staring at the diamond on my engagement ring before hiding my hand from my sight line.

The kids are in bed," I say, then put my phone in my purse and pull my boyfriend toward me.

Even so, the presence of someone new, particularly when paraded in front of the spouse and/or children, can enrage the soon-to-be ex, and also create the suspicion that the relationship began as an “affair” before the separation.